First let me emphasize that there is no one way to do any Power Exchange relationship.  I’m speaking about where my Queen and I are at this moment and about what is working for us.  Recently as chronicled here, our FLR took a turn.  My Queen had felt some pressure to do certain things and act in a certain way.  This was pressure that I didn’t mean to apply, but was managing to do so regardless.  After reading Ms. Rika’s first book together, we had many good conversations and things changed.  After 7 years of being caged (virtually 365/24/7), I am uncaged now.  It’s been about 6 weeks since I’ve had the cage on–to be honest I have no idea of whether it will return occasionally or not.  That is up to my Queen and she just doesn’t like it.  In a weird way I miss it–it was a huge part of my life for so long.  But I’ve committed to serving my Queen–so her likes are the important thing.  I’m still required to sit to pee when I’m at home. And this has become quite ingrained so it’s not difficult at all.  I do admit that using urinals while out and about make my life easier, lol, and certain exercises at the gym are also easier without a cage!  But I do miss it.  I suspect that she may have me wear it on rare occasions.

So what does our FLR look like now?  In many ways it is much the same as before, but I am doing more to make my Queen’s life easier.  It means my days have less free time than they did previously, but I am happy to please my Queen.  She is slowly getting better at not feeling guilty about expecting me to do her bidding while she relaxes. So we continue to evolve.  And while I am no longer caged, I am still not allowed to masturbate (really that has been conditioned out of me now… lol).  Likewise orgasms are still rare for me.  She has had me provide my own “salad dressing” a couple of time though.  That’s kind of hot for me…  I have a video of this, but need to figure out how to post videos on this new platform.  One day soon…lol  Stay well!

So at this point in time, I can say that without question my marriage to my Queen has never been better.  We have always had a good marriage, but with the discovery of Ms. Rika’s books, we’ve progressed and have evolved.  In fact, I have been uncaged for the last two or three weeks.  After so many years of being caged almost constantly, that is a big change.  I admit to being unused to using the urinals at work…lol  I’m not sure what will become of the cage.  I obviously found sleeping and living in it easy to do, but my Queen has always disliked it.  Over the years her reasons for allowing/making me stay caged have changed and fluctuated, but with our discussions on me serving her, it became clear that my wearing a cage was serving me more than her.  She may at times have me wear it, but she likes the easy access that a cage prohibits.  So we will see where this goes.

Each week I read to my Queen–we have been working our way through Ms. Rika’s books and have almost finished the second book.  When I read to her, we often pause and discuss things that we have read.  We also evaluate how the proceeding week has gone.  I’ve always done a lot of stuff around the house, but I’m doing more now.  My Queen is actually doing less and relaxing more.  Her guilt over this still exists, but is getting better.

While not my Queen, the logo is something I believe! lol This shirt is available from Etsy store “611 Clothing Co” and the pic is taken from there.

 

I do hope that in time, she will begin to expect my service without the guilt.  I know that I feel good when she can relax and I ease her daily load.

Despite not being caged, I’m not orgasming a lot.  I’m still not allowed to masturbate and can only cum when given permission. At the moment only one child is around the home, so in the next month or so, we should have quality time together on a regular basis.  For July, we will have two kids around…

It is funny how life changes as you move through it.  Years ago, I orgasmed daily–sometimes multiple times.  I had days where I orgasmed 8-10 times when with certain partners.  And I had days when I did the same when no partner was available.  lol  The five finger version of a discount orgasm!  I certainly don’t cum with that frequency anymore.  And while I miss it in some ways, I don’t in others.  I get real enjoyment serving my Queen.  Giving her orgasms is really as good as getting them myself.  The pleasure I feel is real.  Angus will press hard against his cage, but I will be satisfied.  If she has released him from the cage, he will stand tall and temporarily want release, but ultimately will be satisfied with the excitement of pleasing her.

Washing the dishes and cooking for her takes on new meaning when doing it to serve her and when she acknowledges that fact.  Doing anything to please her causes me sexual excitement.  As a caged man, the erections are curtailed, but the excitement drives me onwards. When allowed and told to massage her or to do things that involve touching her… my excitement is palpable.

One of the neat things about this is how each of us finds the excitement of the other feeds our own excitement.  So in serving my Queen, I become aroused and excited and this helps her to also become aroused and excited.  If only we didn’t have adult children around as much…lol