Our FLR is evolving.  With the help of Ms. Rika and her books, my Queen and I have been adjusting our relationship and we are both enjoying it.  I honestly love serving her.  Angus hardens as much as he can in his cage and I get a sense of accomplishment when she is obviously happy with what I’ve done for her.  I try and anticipate her needs.  I try and get her to relax–this isn’t easy, because she is a driven person and she feels guilt over everything that I am doing.  This is something that we’re working on–that loss of guilt.  I remember a passage in Uniquely Us that covered entitlement and guilt well–we’ve just started to read this book, so I’m hoping that passage will help my Queen.  Now I’ve been caged for a long time.  We started with a cage in 2014, and then tried it more extensively in 2015.  Since late 2015 or early 2016 I’ve been caged virtually every day.  However for most of that time, my Queen was having me be caged because I felt a need to do it.  At least that’s what I think.  She made me cage Angus for me.  But curiously, her feelings and thinking has changed.  We had a conversation recently where she told me frankly that she now sees the need to cage me.  She now wants me caged!  It was a wonderful moment for me.  However, I am now almost never out of the cage! lol   Not a bad thing, but a definite difference.  The last two times we played together, I remained caged.  My Queen’s comment to me was, “I now realize that I don’t need to uncage you to enjoy myself.” This is also a significant change, and one I embrace.  When we have sex, I want it to be all about her!  I enjoy feeling horny, and immensely enjoy giving her pleasure.  It leaves me feeling on a high for hours afterwards.  So our relationship is growing and it’s in a direction I am very happy to see.  I love my Queen passionately and serving her is just the icing on the cake.

Now the shrinkage portion of the title…  Logically, I can’t see cage wearing actually causing a man’s penis to shrink in size.  However, I believe that I’ve shrunk a bit.  My erections seem a little smaller than they used to be…  I don’t have a ruler handy when I am uncaged, and I’m not uncaged often, so this is a subjective observation.  And even if it were true, I wouldn’t change a thing.  But it is my thinking…  Of course I’ve been wrong before and will be again! lol

I can’t believe it’s been a month since I last posted.  I must get better at this.  In some ways it’s because I’m frustrated with fixing this blog.  Caged Lion has offered to help, and I should take him up on that soon.  He is very good with technical things (and has a great blog–Male Chastity Journal–I recommend it highly).

I am very excited by recent changes in our relationship.  As mentioned earlier, I discovered Ms. Rika’s books.  I’ve read 2.5 of them so far.  More importantly, I’ve read the first one to my Queen.  Reading that book became a highlight of our week and this week we’ll start another of her books.  We’ve had some profound discussions as a result of our reading together.  But best of all, we are even more fully invested in our FLR.  My Queen found Ms. Rika’s explanations so much better than mine and I admitted to making mistakes along the way.  While I was always about pleasing my Queen, something has switched in my brain.  And my Queen is learning to embrace her dominance over me.  She still has guilt, but whenever she checks, Angus is hard in his cage.  That and my obvious love of pleasing her is helping her get over her guilt of demanding things from me.

She has even embraced the cage.  This sounds funny for a guy who has been caged for 6-7 years, but I think for most of that time, she was accepting the cage in deference to me.  Now she sees the value of the cage and has come to like it on me.  This is a huge switch.  Her “intent” is different.

I’ve had one orgasm this year.  My Queen decided I needed some salad dressing on my salad and told me to masturbate into my food.  So on Jan. 29th, I came onto my salad before cleaning my plate.  It actually was the first time I had masturbated in years.  Of course this was under her watchful eye! lol    One of our discussions centered on requiring me to clean up any cum I produced.  We discussed how this is exciting to me up until I actually cum.  Afterwards this is more difficult for me and she decided she will be much more stringent in making sure I do a good clean up job now.  So once the salad was finished, I had to lick the plate clean!

She also used the humbler on me a week ago.  Truthfully, she has done a few things to keep me on my toes.  Some have been very surprising.  Last Sunday, she wanted some attention and desired an orgasm, but she decided to keep me caged.  Almost always, she will remove the cage when we play.  However on Sunday she kept me caged and I used my mouth, toys and fingers to bring her to three orgasms.  I loved it!!  I admit that Angus was trying to push through the bars of the cage, but the jailbird is far too strong!  lol   It was only later that she removed the cage–and that was so she could put the humbler on me.

I’ll try and be more active on here and let you know what’s happening.  Stay well!

So I’ve still got to figure some things out about this new set-up.  I’m not sure everything is working properly–I keep getting error messages, but eventually I’ll get it figured out!  If you notice something doesn’t seem to work, please feel free to let me know.  I’m not able to share videos yet, but I guess this is a work in progress!

Happy 2022!  With luck, this year will be much better than the last.  I do know that it has been a very eventful start for me and my Queen. A very good friend as well as my brother-in-law have been diagnosed with cancer.  My friend had been fighting cancer and had been told he was cured back in November.  On his checkup a week ago, they found two spots on his lungs.  So it looks like another battle is brewing.  My brother-in-law had a tumour discovered on his kidney in December–though I didn’t hear about it until last week.  Last week when they were doing tests prior to his surgery, they discovered several spots on his lungs.  So while he has the first tumour removed this week, there is more to his fight still to come.  My Queen’s maid of honour died two days ago–from covid!  She didn’t believe in masking nor in vaccinations.  She was a lovely person though and my Queen is reeling.

We are all healthy.  Our furnace died a week or so ago.  It was -28 Celsius and that wasn’t even considering the windchill factor.  However we were fortunate and had a new furnace (plus air conditioner) installed the next day.  We’ve also had three appliances go on the fritz this month–all are now repaired!  So it has been a rough start to this year.

I am reading Uniquely Rika to my Queen and we’ve had some very good discussions as a result.  I’m really hopeful that we will be able to re-configure our relationship somewhat in ways that please the both of us.  I’m finding her book (Ms. Rika) really explains Domination in a way that makes things so logical and easy for the domme.  I think the work becomes something the submissive must do–and in a D/s relationship, isn’t that the way it should be?  I’ve read other books to my Queen, but this is the first book where she is frequently showing her desire that I read to her.

On the chastity front, my last orgasm was a while ago…  my phone is charging so I can’t get the exact date! lol  However I think it was in November sometime…  This morning we played a little and my Queen gave me two choices.  I could cum on her breasts and then push the cum around her nipples while playing with them before I cleaned up my mess–or I could avoid cumming.  I was tempted, however while I was making up my mind, she decided I had taken too long.  So she decided I wouldn’t cum today!

So I am late…  I wish all of you a very merry Christmas!  This restart of my blog goes slowly.  But I will eventually get better…  This has been a good Christmas as it is the first time in 2.5 years that everyone has been home (children and father).  Sadly, we had to cancel the plans to be with our entire family, but each household has immune compromised people to consider.  Perhaps next year!  In the meantime, I continue to be in a male cage and continue to be denied frequent orgasms.  My last orgasm was in Sept. 114 days ago!   lol

Some time ago, I discovered Reddit.  Recently, someone mentioned a book by Ms. Rika.  As it turns out, it is available on Amazon along with a few other books by her.  I’ve purchased “Uniquely Rika” and also “Uniquely Us”.  I may very well buy her other books too.

“Uniquely Rika” is a really excellent way of describing, introducing and guiding a couple in setting up a female led relationship–though the principles would apply to any service oriented D/s relationship.  I actually am going to ask my Queen to read it and perhaps we’ll adjust our relationship a little.  I’ve been doing the male chastity/caged penis thing for over 6 years now.  In the beginning, I spent a lot of time reading and hunting for resources.  This book really gives a wonderful overview and practical tips for setting up such a relationship.  I believe that women who are vanilla would find it a relatively unthreatening possibility after reading it.  Ms. Rika is in a female led relationship with her husband.  This relationship works very well for both of them.

I found her approach to be very doable.   It is based on the real world and not on fantasy.  Rika discusses how many go about trying to set up their D/s relationships and why many approaches fail.  She also talks about how you can succeed in a service oriented Dominant/submissive relationship.  Using her method, there is no role playing or acting.  Instead she suggests that D/s will extend you and enrich your relationship with your significant other.

I found this to be a readable and logical introduction to one type of FLR.  I honestly wish I had found it years ago.  If you are trying to convince your wife to be a part of an FLR, this book may give you the tools to approach her and also to change your behaviour so that you are acting in a real submissive way.

Uniquely Rika, by Ms. Rika  Copywrited in 2008 and published by Lulu.com    Available on Amazon for $29.95

“Michael, come here please!” My Queen called me into the room.  “I’ve been thinking about all those fantasies you’ve shared with me and I’ve decided to enact some of them.”

“Yes My Queen” I responded.  “As you wish.”

“As long as you’re agreeable, I thought we’d ratchet up our FLR.”  I nodded my agreement and she continued.  “From now on, when you are at home, you will be naked.  When you return from work, you will immediately remove your clothing, fold it, and leave it nicely in a pile by the front door.  If I need you to go out, you may dress again before you do my errand.  Further, you will always bow before entering and leaving a room.  The rest of your rules will still apply.  Punishments will occur rapidly for any transgressions!”  She looked at me.  “Questions?”

“No My Beloved.”

“Good.  Then please disrobe and go prepare dinner.”

I stripped and began this new chapter of my life.  It was an odd feeling to be moving about the house naked but for my cage with my wife and Queen fully dressed.  Over the next few weeks, I became used to our new lifestyle.  And while my beautiful Queen had me service her sexually several times, she didn’t remove the cage once.  I pleasured her using my tongue, toys and vibrators.  Angus struggled to erect, but remained caged.  Otherwise, I would strip when I came home from work and prepare dinner while my Queen worked from home.  At times, she would ask me to bring her something or do something for her.  Several times she decided that I had broken rules and that I needed to be punished.   Twice she paddled my ass and once she had me sleep on the floor at night.  The marks from my spankings lasted several days and I promised her I would do better.

Three weeks into our new arrangement, I arrived home from work.  As I was stripping and folding my clothes, my Queen called me to come to her.  “Michael, I’m having a couple of people from work over for dinner.  You will prepare a nice meal with a dessert for us.  You will serve us and behave like a perfect butler.  If you are inadequate in any way, I will punish you immediately.”

“Yes My Queen–Have you a certain meal in mind?”

“Surprise me.  They should arrive around 6, so let’s plan to eat at 6:30.”

“Yes My Queen, What do you want me to wear?”

“Michael,” she smiled as she looked at me, “You’re dressed perfectly now–after all isn’t it a fantasy of yours to have me display you??”

“Yes My Beloved.” I blushed and my heart rate picked up.  I was excited and yet anxious about the guests and how the evening would go.  No one knew I was caged nor submissive.  This would be letting the cat out of the bag–in a big way!

Moving to the kitchen, I decided on a menu.  We usually made enough food for leftovers so I had thawed out 12 chicken thighs.  This was useful when dealing with unexpected guests too!  I decided to prepare Honey Mustard Chicken Thighs with a Rice Pilaf.  For veggies, I would prepare asparagus and roast some multi-coloured carrots with red onions.  I went downstairs and found a nice Chardonnay.  Dinner was planned and would be ready on time.

I gazed at the clock.  It was approaching 6 o’clock and I knew the guests would be here soon.  A few minutes later the doorbell rang.   “It will be full protocol tonight Michael” my Queen told me. I paused and looked at her as that sank into my head.  “Now answer the door!”

With some trepidation, I went to the door.  The bell rang again as I got there.  Steeling myself, I unlocked the door and opened it.  Two women were standing there.  I noted their surprised expressions and bowed to invite them in.  Then I helped them out of their coats and hung them up!  While I did this, they removed their shoes.  I took them into the living room where my Queen was waiting.  As the women greeted each other I left the room to prepare them drinks.  On my return, my Queen introduced me and explained how we were living in an FLR.  Having given them a nice glass of wine, I returned to the kitchen to finish final preparations for the meal.

As I finished with the meal prep, I could hear snippets of conversation coming from the living room.  Our two guests were asking my wife all about our lifestyle and the extent of my submission.  They were also asking about my trusty chastity cage.

End of part one…

I hadn’t intended this fantasy to be a long one, but I guess I’m a detail guy.  Despite my best intentions, I always feel the need to add to the story.  In real life, I haven’t experienced anything like this.  Perhaps one day a variation may occur, but till then fantasies will keep me going.

On the chastity front, I have been caged nonstop since Sept. 17th.  It is now Nov. 12th.  I’m not sure when I’ll be allowed out of my cage.  So perhaps I’ll end up doing No Nut November…lol

Stay well my friends!