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One of the things my Queen enjoys is hearing me read to her.  I read all kinds of books to her–non fiction for the most part.  She doesn’t really enjoy fiction.  So she will choose books and I will read them to her.  I often read to her as we go to bed.  I also read to her when we are alone and might have time to play.  At these times I read a book that focusses on sex and power exchange.  We discuss what I read and sometimes try and adjust our relationship to incorporate some of the ideas we read about.

I read this book to my Queen last year.  It was written by Key Barrett, M. Sc.  Key Barrett is a pseudonym, but he actually has a masters degree.  He has studied sexual subcultures from North America to Europe.  Prior to writing this book, he had spent time studying Female-Led-Relationships and specifically what makes the good ones so strong.  Surrender, Submit, Serve Her is a guide written to help people enact female leadership and to embrace a female dominated household.

The book is divided into three parts: Surrender, Submit and Serve, and it is supposed to be read aloud as a couple.  This is to foster discussion.  The book is designed to teach males how to serve the female.  Many things are discussed within the pages of this book–including a small portion dealing with sexual relations.  One of the things mentioned was the act of saying a daily pledge.  This is something we have incorporated.  Prior to reading this book, I had a mantra I was required to say whenever my Queen desired it.  After discussion, we decided to incorporate a daily pledge.  I took my kinky wedding vow and made a few changes as suggested by Barrett.  We also have an evening pledge that my Queen wanted.

In the morning, I come downstairs and make my Queen’s coffee, empty the dishwasher etc.  When she comes downstairs, she sits down and I bring her coffee to her.  I am usually dressed in an apron.  I give my Queen one of her crops and kneel before her.  I hike the apron up above my nipples and then say my pledge:

“Mistress ______, I commit myself to your natural authority.  I promise to learn and grow with you exploring life together.  I will obey, serve, cherish and respect you as my superior.  I pledge my submission to you and my devotion to your pleasure.  I celebrate your sexual freedom to do as you wish!  I offer myself to you as your slave with my undying love, devotion and chastity.  I give you total control of my life including my sexuality, my orgasms and erections.  I will do everything I can for you that you desire.  I choose you as the person with whom I give my key and surrender to.  My key represents our trust in each other, your superiority, your natural authority, and your strength to lead us for as long as we both shall live!”  After completing my pledge, I then kiss the back of her hand and ask her how I might make her happy on that day.

My evening pledge is shorter, and includes my listing the things I’ve done for her that day.

Overall, there were some good things about this book.  It wasn’t my favourite book on this topic, but we did generate some great discussion and adjust our relationship practices a little.  It shouldn’t be the only book on Femdom you read, but it will likely help to expand your view of this type of relationship.

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I’d like to wish everyone a wonderful, happy and healthy holiday season.  As I celebrate Christmas, I’ll add Merry Christmas to those of you who also do the same.  That being said, if you celebrate something else, Hannukah, or Kwanza, my heartiest greetings and best wishes for you too!

It has been a hectic year.  So much has happened.  We started the year in an FLR, and then travelled to Vegas to undergo a femdom ceremony where I remarried my Queen and pledged to be her slave.  She in turn pledged to be my owner.  It was a special day and has had an epic effect on our lives.  Afterwards we had a wonderful honeymoon at Hedonism in Jamaica… these events have been chronicled earlier in this blog.  We then decided to move and that has been the better part of this year.  Packing , moving and unpacking has been a level of busy I don’t want to go through again.  Currently my son and I are working on an outdoor construction project that really should have been done before the snow… however, we are hoping to finish it sometime in the next week.  So at some point over the holidays, I’m hoping to be able to rest and relax a little–although that will depend on my Queen! lol

Today marks 79 continuous days caged.  I’ve done L’October, No Nut November, and am now well into Deny December.  When my Queen found out we were approaching our previous record of 96 continuous days caged, she hinted that we might be setting a new record.  So perhaps I’ll remain caged into January…  Honestly I have no idea when I might be released.

Long time readers will know how difficult penetration has been for my Queen since her hysterectomy.  We recently saw a specialist who will see my Queen for a more thorough examination in early January.  He believes he knows what the problem is and is optimistic that he can fix the issue.  This second visit in January is going to be more invasive, but hopefully should answer his questions about how to go about fixing things.  Then we hope to get on the surgical list ASAP.  My Queen misses penetration–far more than me.  So with luck we’ll be able to screw like rabbits sometime in the next 6 months…lol  This wouldn’t change the frequency of my orgasms, but would improve my Queen’s sex life.  Until the surgery and recovery period is over, I’m bound to remain pussy free.  I might even remain caged for that period of time.

The last orgasm I had was surprising.  We do continue to have sex when my Queen wishes and 43 days ago, she decided to sit on my face. While I was pleasuring her, she played with Angus in his cage.  I was surprised at how good it felt.  She had several orgasms and then really went to town on Angus.  I struggled to stop her, but she continued until I had a caged orgasm.  She indicated that if I could orgasm while caged, there really wasn’t any reason to remove the cage then…  As per her rules, she scooped up my ejaculate and fed it to me with her fingers.

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Well L’October has started.  So as I write about Hedo and our honeymoon, any exciting memories will cause bulging out of the cage! lol October has 31 days, but somehow I always seem to go at least 50 and sometimes more.  We played on Saturday and while I didn’t touch Angus, he was out of the cage for a bit.  So my L’October started on Sept. 27th.

However, back to Hedo.  This post will contain memories of things that happened there.  They may be disjointed and not necessarily in the order that they happened, but it is a long time ago now.  We had a marvelous time there.  Food was great, weather fantastic and we also met some nice people.  The resort is small but complete.  They have a pavilion called the Kama Sutra and they run free workshops every day at noon.  Additionally you can book paid services from them.  We went almost every day and really enjoyed the increased intimacy the workshops fostered.  Before we left, we booked a couples massage and that was marvelous too!  Each day we would have a nice breakfast, go to the gym and workout, before heading over to the Kama Sutra for our workshop.  It was a unique experience as it was full of couples.  They had mattresses laid out on the floor and likely had room for 12-14 couples.  Everyone was nude and it was a new experience for the two of us.  In fairness, no one was gawking at others–the focus was on our partners, but still if you looked up there was a couple in front of you naked.  After the workshop, we would perhaps play a little and then go for lunch.  The afternoons were spent outside mostly nude enjoying the sun.

There is a hot tub/pool at Hedo at one end of the property.  It tends to have the more exciting action regularly.  If the mood hits people, they might go at it right there or they might move into a nearby cabin to play before returning to the pool.  We saw several lucky guys getting blow jobs over the ten days and a couple of times we saw intercourse.  It was freeing and people really didn’t stare or spectate–they just continued to party and drink.  We didn’t do anything at this pool except converse and meet a few people.  My Queen did play with me a little causing Angus to attempt an erection that the cage prevented.  Towards the end of our time there, my Queen removed my cage and played with Angus generating a full erection.  Then she would ask me to go to the bar and get her a drink.  That was deliciously embarrassing.  There is lots of nudity and sometimes sex happening, but guys generally don’t walk around with a full erection.

One of the themes at Hedo is Fetish night.  For us it was relatively easy.  We went as who we actually are.  I was leashed and caged and my Queen was in some fetish finery.  I think there were more participants for this contest than any other during our stay.  When it was all said and done, we were winners!

After winning the Fetish contest at Hedo

As the 10 days progressed, my Queen became more relaxed.  One day she decided that after dinner I would give her an orgasm with my mouth–on one of the beds just outside of the buffet.  This is a central spot at Hedo and people are always walking around there.  So after spending some time in the Karaoke Bar, we left and she pulled me to this one bed.  She had me strip and then lay down on the bed with her legs spread.  Her outfit was very sexy and she wasn’t wearing panties.  She pulled my face to her pussy and I started to do my favourite thing!

The outfit my Queen was wearing as I went down on her outside the buffet!

My focus was totally on my Queen but as she came closer and closer to orgasm, many people walked by.  Apparently a couple paused for a moment–though most just looked as they walked by.  The exhibitionism seemed to turn her on even more than usual and she had a massive orgasm.  My face was soaked and Angus was pushing hard against his cage.  When she was finished, we cuddled for a moment before returning to our room.

Hedo has a playroom.  It opens reasonably late in the evening and you must strip down to enter it.  They don’t want gawkers.  It took us a about a week before my Queen decided we would go to it.  Initially we were just going to walk in and see what it was about, but as I said they tell you to strip if you’re going inside.  There are mattresses covering the floor of this pavillion and the ceiling is non-existent.  Kind of cool to look up and see stars… lol  At any rate we found a section of mattress and started to caress each other.  All around us were other couples and at least one threesome making love/having sex!  My focus was on my Queen and after she had had another couple of orgasms, we got up and left.  My Queen had been afraid that we would be pressured by others to let them join us or to join them.  Nothing like that happened at all.

Ultimately Hedo was one of the best vacations we ever had.  There was a true openness and freedom to be yourself there.  People were very friendly and we’ve planned a return visit.

 

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I’ve been absent for a while and I apologize.  My Queen decided we were moving and after we talked about it, I embraced the change.  So for the last 6 weeks I have been feverishly purging and packing.  We took down most of our paintings/pictures from the walls, so I had small holes all over the place to patch and paint.  I’ve filled a storage unit 15 X 10 X 9 and given furniture and clothes to charities.  I’ve also purged a lot of other things.  So it’s been a busy time.  With all the turmoil in the world, it looks like it will take some time to sell our place, but with all the changes it’s almost like living in a new place anyways… lol

However after our Femdom marriage, we returned home to pack for a vacation in the sunny south.  I had booked a 10 day vacation at Hedonism in Jamaica.  We had never been, but it seemed a place we might be able to relax and unwind at.  I’m not exactly sure what we expected but likely we expected to see sexual acts happening as we arrived.  Instead, we were warmly greeted by the desk staff and after getting the lowdown were escorted to our room.  Hedo is a small resort.  Regardless of where your room is located, you are never far from anywhere.  On arrival we unpacked and went on an easy explore.  After this, we went down to the beach.  My Queen had decided in advance that she would not be going nude.  So she went topless that first time at the beach.  I went naked and realized a fantasy of mine–being naked and caged on a public beach.  While I did get some looks, no one said anything to either of us.  After a short time, my Queen decided to go fully nude and that’s the way she went the remainder of our stay.  After a while we returned to our room and cleaned up for dinner.  Hedo has theme nights and return guests are well aware of them often packing a particular outfit for each theme.  We weren’t in the know before we went so we sort of made it up on the go.

Hedo has a store on site that is actually pretty good.  There is a good selection of casual clothing and a pretty impressive selection of fetish wear–particularly for women!  They also sell sex toys, lube, cigars, booze and snacks.  The prices aren’t bad and the quality is very good.  We ended up shopping there several times and purchased some very nice outfits for my Queen.  So she was in pretty good shape for most of the themes.  It was exciting to shop for her.  Unfortunately there really wasn’t very much for males to wear.  So we didn’t purchase anything for me, but I had brought some stuff and was able to make do with what I had.  (I started this post on May 7 and thought I had posted it.  Here it is Sept. 30th and I am finally back on my blog–so my apologies are really overdue).

I will return to Hedo in another post–but just an explanation of why I’ve been so long away.  After we returned from Hedo, my Queen told me she had decided to move.  She did ask for my input, but the decision was ultimately hers.  I continued to purge through the months of May and June.  I was also packing.  In that first week of July we sold our home and four days later purchased a new home in a town about an hour away from where we were.  The timelines were very tight and I continued to purge while accelerating my packing.   In early August we moved–the move from hell.  If it could go wrong that day, then you can bet it did.  However we did sleep in our new place.  Since the move, I have been spending long days unpacking, and setting up our new home.  Most days I’m up at 6:00 and working until supper which I eat around 9:00 to 10:00.  Then I watch a little television before crashing.  Finally today I have a moment to breath and think about other things.  The house if finally taking shape.  Eventually it will be a really pleasant place to live.

I promise my next post will be much sooner and I will return to our Hedo honeymoon.  Hopefully I will include some pics too!

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So with our marriage behind us, we headed back to our hotel room.  We had to stop on the way and pick up a few things we needed for our trip to the Grand Canyon the next day–and we needed to get ready for the hockey game (eat and change).  We had tickets to see the Dallas Stars and Vegas Knights.  So as it turned out, there was no sex between us that night–or the next day! We were up early the next day for a trip to the Grand Canyon.  By the time we had returned, cleaned up and gone out for dinner, it was late and my Queen was tired.  lol

But my Queen had her ideas of consummation and so on the next morning, we had our wedding sex.  Initially I was caged and we did extensive touching before I was able to give my Queen several orgasms using my mouth, toys and hands.  However she also wanted me to orgasm.  Now regular readers will know that I don’t orgasm often.  Heading into the wedding, I had had an orgasm about two weeks earlier, but the one before that had been 226 days earlier.  Still my Queen wanted an orgasm from me to celebrate our marriage.  One of the things that happens when I orgasm is that I am made to clean up my mess with my mouth and tongue.  So my Queen removed my cage about an hour or so into our lovemaking session and then told me I was to come into a cup.  Then she planned to feed me my mess.  So as instructed I brought myself to orgasm for my Queen.  She held a cup in the appropriate place and I emptied myself into it.  It was and remains the second orgasm I’ve had this year.  Then she had my open my mouth and poured my semen into my mouth.  She asked me to hold my tongue out so she could take a picture and that was our marriage consummated.

Wedding orgasm that is fed to me by my Queen

Now according to my Queen we were officially slave and Wife.  It has now been 42 days since that orgasm and likely will be a while before I have another.  The featured image was taken on the day of our wedding and Donald was integral to our enjoyment of the ceremony.  Donald is Priestess Kikko’s submissive.

Our visit to Vegas was fun and changed our lives.  When we were first married in our vanilla ceremony, we hadn’t the time or money to honeymoon.  This time though we planned a honeymoon.  We returned home and a day later travelled to Jamaica and to the Hedonism II Resort.  Perhaps the best holiday I’ve ever had, future posts will talk about our experiences there.