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I am a card guy!  I hunt through card shops, on-line and other shops that also sell cards regularly to find the perfect card.  I’m famous for getting more than one card for any situation because it often takes me two or three cards to say exactly what I want to say.  It is particularly difficult to find cards with a kink theme.  So I want to highlight a great shop I’ve found on Etsy.   SinUp is a shop based in Vancouver and run by an entrepreneur named Erika.  Her shop features 234 items most of them dealing with Femdom.  She has a large number of Femdom greeting cards, some Femdom mugs and art, and some Femdom clothing.  I have found her great to deal with and love her shop!  Somehow, with the focus of her shop prominent in my mind, I believe she is also a Domme–though that’s a guess by me! (I’ve been known to be wrong on many occasions)

Two of the latest cards I’ve purchased from her are shown below.  They give an idea of her work.  While she has a variety of stock phrases for each of her cards, you also have the option of choosing your own wording.

Valentine’s Day Card
Christmas Card this year

As a slave to my Queen, these cards are just perfect for those kinky times or to inject a little kink into standard occasions.  A little sexy time makes every event a little better.  I strongly suggest you go and check out her shop!  There has to be something that you might like there.

Cards and notes, small gifts and acts where your partner is put first are very good for building intimacy and togetherness.  All relationships benefit from good communication.  These small tokens of love and fealty really help to build and support a relationship.  I am fortunate to have a wonderful relationship with a stellar woman.  Cards such as these are fantastic tools to enhance one’s love!

On the chastity front, I was caged for all of February.  Yesterday (March 1st) my Queen decided I should come out of the cage.  She further decided I should have an orgasm, so I’ve now had 2 orgasms in 2026.  Spring is coming and so did I… lol

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Years ago, in my previous blog, I talked about and showed what we called the zapper!  A little over 11 years ago, I came across the blog called “Male Chastity Journal”.  It was written by a couple.  The male called himself Caged Lion and his wife was called Mrs. Lion.  I was certain it would still exist and just went looking for it, but apparently Lion passed away in Sept of 2024.  It was very sudden.  I’m a little surprised and saddened by this news.  Lion and I had forged a friendship and we corresponded frequently.  With the onset of the pandemic we both seemed to get busy and stopped communicating as often–at all really.  And yet I figured I could contact him at any time.  I’m sad that he’s passed.

As I started my chastity journey, I used Lion and his advice to find out many things about the lifestyle.  He and Mrs. Lion posted nearly everyday.  The beauty of their blog was that you had both viewpoints.  At any rate, Lion used a Mature Metal cage, and I ended up purchasing one from them myself.  It’s a choice I have never regretted.  They build quality cages.  Another thing that Lion had done was purchase a Dog shock collar.  He shortened it and wore it around his penis and scrotum.  I thought that was a cool idea, so I purchased one too.  As it turned out my Queen loved that device.  She used it for entertainment, to call me, and also for punishment.  I remember receiving 500 maximal shocks for one transgression.  Well we’ve moved recently and while I know exactly where the old zapper is, neither of us have any idea where the remote is.  The unit was getting old, so we’ve purchased a new unit.

Wearing the new Zapper! It appears to be a stronger device than the first one.

The new zapper has upgraded technology.  It actually can be used with two dogs (or two slaves), though my Queen has no plans to expand her stable! lol

This company produces all sorts of dog trainers.   This particular model has a range of 500m.  That’s a heck of a reach my Queen has! lol   Improvements from our first “zapper” seem to be an improved weather resistance, increased range, and increased power!  So far my Queen hasn’t used it on the max level yet.  For that I’m grateful.  The strap is plastic rather than strapping material.  So it isn’t as comfortable as the old zapper.  However I’ve worn it for upwards of 6 hours without too much hassle so far.

Like the first zapper, my Queen finds it amusing to zapp me.  She particularly likes surprising me with it.  My reactions are far more amusing to her when she surprises me.  As time goes on, I’ll become much more familiar with this device and I’ll let you know how it goes.

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So my latest record broken is the length of time I’ve been caged. The old record was 96 days and now it is 120 days.  One day recently, my Queen asked me what day I was at, and after checking I said 119 days.  “hmmm,” she mused…  “Tomorrow night you’ll take it off!”  So  my new record is now 120 days.  I was out of my cage for a few days and it was a weird feeling.  Sleeping, going to the washroom–just plain living is different without the cage.  In many ways it just doesn’t feel right anymore to be without it.  I no longer masturbate–unless my Queen has told me to, so that is a pleasure I don’t indulge in.  If you go back the ten years of so that we’ve practiced male chastity, I used to masturbate at least daily.  There were many days when I would masturbate more than once.  Who knew that I would stop?  lol  I still love sex, but my entire focus is on pleasing my Queen.  On occasion she wants to see me cum.  Then she feeds me my mess.  These acts turn her on so I will always cum when she demands it.  In fact she caused me to have an orgasm a few days ago on February 1st.  After which, she scooped up my mess and made me lick it from her hand.  Prior to that, my previous orgasm had been on November 2nd, a full 92 days earlier.

But let’s back up a bit.  It’s winter and cold here.  My outfit for wear around the house–as long as my son isn’t around–is an apron!  If I’m cold, I am allowed to wear a t-shirt as well.  My Queen thought I should be able to wear something for the really cold days.  So we checked out Etsy, Amazon, Shein etc.  In the end we purchased a few things.  One of them was a body stocking designed for males.  It’s a very sheer design that is surprisingly warm and has a penis sheath incorporated into it.  I wore it for the first time on the first.

My new body stocking under my apron.
My body stocking showing the penis sheath. This is actually how I’m supposed to kneel in front of my Queen. She wants me to lift the apron when I do so!

So I did my daily chores for her.  And we relaxed together.  I read her books often as she likes to hear my voice.  When she’s feeling frisky, I will often read erotica or a book on sexuality and the lifestyle.  Currently I’m reading Lady Sas’ book FEMDOM ACADEMY.  We will discuss things that otherwise we might not even think of.  It helps to let each of us know more about the other.  Ultimately nothing will ever happen that my Queen doesn’t want, but sometimes ideas are planted and they may bear fruit later.  Regardless, it is helping us to communicate better with each other.

Reading to my Queen helps her to begin to feel frisky.  We always also talk about the state of our relationship and how things might be improved.  But I like that she begins to feel frisky.  I’m not allowed to ask for sex–it’s a punishable offence, so a frisky Queen means things might happen and on Sunday, they did.  My Queen told me to stop reading and go into the bedroom.  I was to get certain toys/tools out and leave them on the bed.  I was then told to lie, face up and spread eagled on the bed.  My Queen came in and blindfolded me.  She then proceeded to cuff my wrists and ankles before immobilizing them.  Then she started to play with me.  I’m down to sensation as I can’t see a thing.

Tied to the bed for my Queen’s pleasure

What happened?  Well she used a crop and paddle on me.  She applied pinchy things to my nipples, scrotum and cock.  She smacked them off after they had been on a while–and anyone who’s had this done knows that is exquisite torture.  She used a feather.  To be honest I can’t remember all that she did (I am a visual learner! lol).  She did put her favourite dildo into my mouth.

The only pinchy things I can verify were these hair clips
Sucking my Queen’s cock

I was really enjoying the experience when the best thing happened.  My Queen straddled me and moved over my face!  Initially she had me stimulate her through her panties but she was horny so quickly she pulled them aside and let me lick her.  She was sopping wet and I went to town.  It was glorious!  I knew she was really turned on as she came quite quickly.  But I didn’t stop and she had another couple of orgasms before she slid down my body.  I am not sure exactly what happened but it felt like she was rubbing her pussy on Angus.  I was so turned on by this time and hadn’t been expecting this at all.  She worked feverishly and before I could help myself, I started an epic orgasm.  The stocking does have a hole at the top of the penis sheath, so all that built up come came shooting out.  My Queen collected it and brought her hand to my mouth so I could clean up my mess.  There must have been a good amount because she did this 4-5 times.

“I know you say it’s all about me,” she said, “But sometimes I just want to make it about you!”  Then “Put the cage back on!!”

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So January 14th was International Male Chastity Day.  This started some years ago in the kink community.  The day is actually supposed to be the first day of International Male Chastity Month–which ends–you guessed it–on Valentine’s Day.  Near as I can figure, this was started back in 2014. When I first investigated male chastity and devices used for it, I came across this day and month in various chastity forums.  The idea seemed to be it would be a good month to try this out and by releasing the male on Valentine’s Day, the following sex would be explosive!  It is not something I have ever actually formally partaken in.  That might change this year as I’m in the midst of my longest period of consecutive days caged.  So it is entirely possible that I will still be caged on February 14th.  As you are all aware, I don’t make those decisions.

Though not me, this is how men should be this month–according to some anyways…lol

I’ve tried to find out info on Male Chastity Month without success.  When I first started to get interested in this kink, I did a lot of investigation.  I read from many many sources.  I was trying to get ideas about cages and the way they fit people.  I was looking for ways to approach my wife about it.  I was just a sponge for information.  I thought I had read about Male chastity month on the website “Chastity Mansion”, but after a visit just today, I couldn’t really find anything about it.  Some stuff dealing with  International Male Chastity Day… but nothing really about the month.

Male chastity is a growing phenomena.  More and more males are purchasing cages and self caging.  The fortunate ones have a partner (either male or female) who agree to be their key holder.  Thousands of cages are sold every month.  There are many custom cage manufacturers.  This proliferation of hardware would not happen if the kink were a rarity.  Instead it speaks to the increasing number of people indulging in this fantasy or kink.   When I first got interested, it was because I saw a metal cage in a sex shop.  It just spun my mind.  At the time, it was the first and only sex shop I had been in that had cages.  It was a large shop and only had the one type of cage.  Now, it doesn’t seem to matter which sex shop I visit–nor how large the shop is, all shops have an assortment of cages.

Fit is incredibly important when choosing a cage.  To be honest, I firmly recommend getting a custom cage.  However they are expensive and you can purchase many cheaper cages that are mass produced to get an idea as to how sizing works.  These cheaper cages allow you to try different materials as well as different dimensions.  Cages are made from metals, plastics, resin and silicone.  They come in cage styles with lots of holes thus allowing easier hygiene maintenance or tube style.  Tube style cages must be removed for cleaning every day or at most every other day.  Currently I’ve been in my cage for 114 days without it’s removal once.  I have no issues maintaining my hygiene with my cage.  I have tried a few tube style cages in the past.  They begin to smell very quickly.  For that reason alone I didn’t like them.

So Happy International Male Chastity Month everyone!  If you are a caged male, enjoy the month.  If you have only thought about it, go on Amazon–they have so many cages, you could have one in a couple of days and begin to try it out.  Perhaps you’ll be a convert!  More importantly, perhaps your wife will be a convert!

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Happy New Year everyone–this is directed to the 2-3 people who will read this… lol  It has been a busy holiday season and just now life is returning to normal.  I’ve gained a pile of weight over the last 6 months –largely due to the move and my stopping my plan.  As of this week though, I am back on my plan so the weight should evaporate over the next few months.  I still workout 5-6 times a week as does my Queen.

Much happened in 2025.  We were remarried in a Femdom ceremony and went to Hedonism for our honeymoon.  We decided to move and spent a large portion of the year packing, selling, buying, moving, and unpacking.  We got fed up with my wife’s gynecologist who we caught in a couple of lies and finally were able to see someone else about my wife’s inability to be penetrated.  Earlier this week we saw this doctor again at the hospital and he examined my wife very closely to figure out exactly what he needed to do to help solve her problem.  The good news is that he believes he can eliminate the problem and that post surgery, recovery should only take about 8 weeks.  Now we’re not sure when the surgery will happen, but it shouldn’t be too long now.  So with any luck at all, penetration should be back on the table by the summer.  Of course I only penetrate my Queen if she desires, but as it’s been years since she could handle any penetration, I expect she’ll go a bit wild initially.  I’ll be working hard to avoid orgasms that aren’t permitted.

We’ve played a little in the last little while.  But as I’m now at 104 days consecutively caged, I don’t always even bother to undress–unless my Queen wants me to.  btw, this 104 days is a record for me.  So everyday it will increase by one until my Queen decides she wants to play with her uncaged toy!  The last orgasms of 2025 happened on Dec. 29th.  On that occasion, my Queen had 3 very satisfying orgasms.

My Queen's beautiful pussy post orgasm
After our last play session, my Queen’s pussy was plump with engorgement.

Orgasm totals for 2025 were a bit disappointing.  Especially as we started the year so well.  However life got in the way.  With the move we were so busy and exhausted.  There was also a lot of stress.  And while stress doesn’t stop my libido, it isn’t my libido that matters.  My Queen needed to feel frisky and stress is not something that helps her get in the mood.  So our orgasm totals for 2025 were:  My Queen had 135 orgasms while I had 9 full orgasms and 2 ruined.  That’s a pretty good year for me, but not the best for my Queen.  I should point out that my Queen likes to see me orgasm–and then likes to make me clean up my mess.  So I might go a pile of days and then she’ll have me cum 2-3 times over a week or so.  So my last orgasm was a caged orgasm 68 days ago.