Relationship Pain–Or Will I Ever Love Again?
I have a friend who is suffering the end of a long marriage. Over the years, I have known several good friends who went through divorce. I myself separated and divorced a little over 20 years ago. To be honest, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. It really is an unpleasant time. I never imagined that I would go through divorce. So as my marriage deteriorated and that potential approached reality, I was distraught. I loved my first wife and did everything in my power to keep us together. But as a therapist told me, it takes two to marry, but only one to cause divorce. My first wife had fallen in love with someone she worked closely with. So I had to make the best of it. We did manage to do a separation agreement using the same lawyer, so it was less painful than many I know have gone through. But it still wasn’t pleasant!
I had been out of the dating pool for a long time. Technology and dating had changed. So I started by using a website. As a man, I found I was outnumbered by women. I actually dated several women over the year and a half after our split. Then one day I received a message from my Queen. We spoke by messaging for a little bit, but relatively soon, we exchanged phone numbers and started to converse. In fact we spoke every night for about a week–for hours. I’d speak with my Queen until 3 or 4 in the morning and then I’d sleep for a couple of hours before I got up for work. Things were going swimmingly, so we arranged to meet at a restaurant/bar about halfway between our homes. It was about a 40 minute drive. We met at 8:00 and sat down and eventually ordered a snack and drinks. The place closed at 2:00 am, and we were the last out the door. We then went and sat in her car until a little past 4:00 am.
To say we got on famously would be an understatement! I arrived home went to bed for about an hour before getting up and going to work. I told a good friend that I’d found the girl I was going to marry. It took seven years, but we did tie the knot. Over time, we have had our ups and downs. I won’t comment on the downs, but there were some serious things that happened (again things that I wouldn’t wish on anyone)–still we had each other’s back. We’ve had difficult conversations. I was determined to be honest and forthcoming with my needs and wants. Whenever I was going to broach a difficult topic, I would get nervous and worry about how she might take it. However I didn’t want a relationship like I had with my first wife. I wanted something better, so I would broach the topic. She never looked at me with horror or told me I was sick. Sexually, we discussed everything and she was open to virtually everything I spoke about. I told her I wanted her to pee on me–and drink it too! She gave it a try and pretty quickly got over her pee shyness. I saw a cock cage in a sex shop and on my own investigated it. I brought it up and after a discussion she was game to try it. She was ok, dominating me, but it was something we did on odd weekends or when we went away. I believe it was in 2018 that I broached being in an FLR. We discussed this and determined how it would work and started that. It wasn’t working as well as it could, but I found Ms. Rika’s books and we eventually read them together. This was a turning point for us. We revamped our relationship which made it much better for my Queen. Eventually I proposed we renew our vows in a femdom wedding. This would be where I committed to being her slave and she my owner. She accepted the proposal–and I began to look for venues in Vegas. I wanted it to be real and so did she. Earlier this year we had our ceremony–as can be seen in other posts.
So I’m living my best life with my beautiful Queen. Things have changed dramatically for me. I’m seldom without something to do. lol And I need to ask permission to do things other husbands might do without a thought. But that’s ok. Making her happy makes me happy. Pleasing her pleases me and pleasing her sexually is the greatest.
So to all who are going through the turmoil of breakup, I’m here to say there is life after divorce and breakup! Don’t lose heart or stop living. Put yourselves in a position to meet people. If you’re into kink, find munches to attend. This will allow you to meet other kinky people. At some point you will meet the right person for you–your person!